Archives For November 30, 1999

Church of Two

Charles Kiser —  April 8, 2010 — 5 Comments

I’ve been enriched in the past few weeks by an emerging structure for spiritual formation called Church of Two.

Church of Two – and you can read more about it at the CO2 Blog or Lk10resources.com – provides a rhythm for listening to God and others. It revolves around two spiritual practices: contemplation (listening to God) and transparency (sharing one’s heart at a deep level and listening to others do the same).

In short, two people journey together over the course of a few weeks. They connect to each other daily (sometimes briefly, other times for longer). When they connect they “check in” by sharing the state of their heart with each other (e.g., happy, sad, scared, anxious, excited, etc. or a combination of several). Each person listens to the other with an ear toward how God might be at work in the midst of their feelings and experiences.

This Church of Two also shares about how they have been listening to God and what they’ve been hearing. The other person serves as a partner to help discern whether or not what’s being heard is really coming from God or somewhere else (like one’s own ingenuity or the forces of evil).

Sometimes the Church of Two takes time to sit and listen to God together. The group might take time to listen, for instance, about persisting anxiety in one participant’s life.

Church of Two participants also begin the experience thinking and looking for others with whom they might link up. At the end of the few weeks, they branch out and start the Church of Two experience with others.

I’ve had the privilege of participating in Church of Two with Hobby Chapin, my co-worker Ryan Porche, and Paul McMullen over the last six weeks. Hobby, in particular, has been a mentor to me in listening to God and blogs regularly about his experiences here.

The benefits of Church of Two are immense: it has helped me stay in touch with myself much better; I’m learning to listen to others at a deeper level; I’m learning to listen to God and discern what I’m hearing in times of stillness; I’m learning to have times of stillness – period; it’s a great tool for discernment and decision making; it has helped me to connect to old friends on deeper levels; I’ve seen others, like Micah Lewis, use it as a connecting point for disconnected friends who are searching for God.

More than anything, Church of Two has helped me feel like I am in a real relationship with God because of its inherent reciprocity: I share with God, and God shares with me – just like in any other healthy relationship.

Right now I’m wrestling with several questions about how to integrate the practices of Church of Two into my life and ministry:

  • What is the relationship of Church of Two to the spiritual practice of reading Scripture?
  • What is the relationship of Church of Two to the spiritual practice of confession?
  • What is the relationship of Church of Two to the spiritual practice of petitionary prayer?
  • How do we integrate the practices of Church of Two with other structures of spiritual formation in our community – particularly the rhythms of Scripture reading, confession and prayer for the disconnected that takes place in our formation groups?
  • Previous question from a different angle: are the Church of Two and Neil Cole’s Life Transformation Group models for spiritual formation mutually exclusive or can they integrate?
  • What accountability mechanisms exist for discernment in relation to what people hear when they listen?
  • Is Church of Two best suited as a “seasonal” spiritual practice or a regular part of my spiritual diet?

If you want a helpful two-page description of Church of Two, you can find one here.

I’d encourage you to give it a whirl if you’re looking to inject some life into your relationships with God and other people.

Illuminate

Charles Kiser —  December 14, 2009 — 2 Comments

One component of Storyline’s structures for spiritual formation is the retreat setting. Who says youth groups are the only ones allowed to have powerful retreat experiences?

Retreats have powerful potential because they help us break away from our normal rhythms to look at our lives from the outside. They are helpful for evaluation, introspection and goal setting. We form special bonds with others as we grow together in retreat contexts.

To date, we’ve developed three retreat experiences in the Storyline Community.

The first is Marvelous Light, associated with the season of Lent (February), which seeks to facilitate spiritual cleansing, confession and the reception of grace.

The second is City on a Hill, associated with the season After Pentecost (May), which seeks to equip people to live on mission just as the church did after Pentecost.

The third, and most recently developed, is Illuminate. Illuminate is also connected to the latter part of the season After Pentecost (November – it’s a long season!).

My co-worker, Ryan Porche, spearheaded the development of Illuminate. In Ryan’s words, from the Storyline website:

Developing a personal worship life is crucial for a follower of Jesus. And yet, not everyone relates to God in the exact same way. Illuminate is designed to equip followers of Jesus with tools to grow in their personal relationship with God. The retreat introduces a number of spiritual disciplines, and also provides opportunities to experiment on your own. Illuminate is a rich time in the presence of God!

I participated in the first Illuminate retreat with about 20 other Storyliners on November 20-21. In the weeks that have followed the retreat, I’ve felt more connected to God than I have in a long time.

Here are a few personal highlights for me from the retreat experience:

  • Lectio (“lex-ee-oh”) divina (=”divine reading”): I learned a couple new approaches to praying Scripture that I’ve found helpful in the past few weeks. One was the one-step method, where you find a phrase in Scripture and chew on it; another was the four-step method of read, reflect, respond, rest.
  • Examen prayer: an ancient prayer rhythm that entails looking back on the last day in the video player of my memory and looking for places I saw God working as well as times where I might have disappointed God. Great times of praise and confession have emerged for me from this spiritual practice.
  • Breath prayer: another ancient prayer practice in which the pray-er repeats a prayer throughout the day that can be contained within one breath. I’ve found this prayer to be the most accessible way of beginning to “practice the presence of God” in my life. “Holy Father, fill me with your love” has been my personal breath prayer favorite in the last few weeks.
  • Vow of silence: on Friday night through Saturday morning we took a vow of silence. It had been a long time since I’d practiced such intentional silence. What a head clearing practice! It was a powerful experience and left me wanting to plan other times of silence.
  • Practice: I appreciated the way Porche emphasized practicing spiritual practices throughout the weekend, rather than talking about practicing spiritual practices. The lionshare of our time was spent experimenting with different spiritual practices and then processing our experiences with other people.
  • Relationship: Lectio, Examen and Breath prayer have all made personal relationship with God a much more tangible thing. I don’t know quite how to describe it, only to say that “spiritual disciplines” have often been a source of guilt for me – particularly because I didn’t feel like I was very good at them. I guess I’ve just been practicing the wrong ones, because I’ve found some that energize me and feel so natural rather than a task that I have to check off my list so that I can say I’m a spiritually disciplined person. That would miss the point, for sure.

Thank you, Ryan, for your hard work putting this retreat together. I can’t wait for the next one (November 5-6, 2010)!

Best Practice Luncheon

Charles Kiser —  August 25, 2009 — 2 Comments

DMag_03_09_CoverThis Thursday we’re hosting the Best Practice Luncheon in partnership with the Dallas Junior Chamber of Commerce.

“Best practices” is a familiar term in the professional world. The phrase refers to those methods that produce the best results in any given industry by the most effective means.

The idea behind the event is that our best practice as professionals is our own personal development – inspired by Earl Creps’s thought: “My best practice must be me.”

My best practice is me.

Your best practice is you.

We’re pleased that Dallas District Attorney Craig Watkins has accepted our invitation to come speak on this topic. Watkins is the first African American D.A. in the state of Texas. He was recently featured on 60 Minutes and in D Magazine (see the provocative article here) for his work to free men who had been wrongly imprisoned. He is turning the justice system upside down with his approach and is turning heads nationwide.

Watkins will share about his own personal development after coming into a position of great power and being the object of intense criticism.

I heard him speak at a Central Dallas Ministries prayer breakfast in April and he was fantastic.

If you’d like more information you can visit www.storylinecommunity.com/luncheon.

Registration ends today so hurry and register if you’d like to attend. Lunch is provided but seats are limited. It’s open to all. Register by sending an email to info@storylinecommunity.com or RSVP to the Facebook Event.

Please pray for the success of this event and that it will open doors for deeper conversation about personal development and spiritual formation among our young professional peers here in the Uptown area.

Back from Vacation

Charles Kiser —  July 30, 2009 — 1 Comment

On the Beach

I love vacation.

I spent last week on a beach in Navarre, Florida – outside of Destin – with my extended family (parents, brother and sister-in-law, sisters, Julie and Ryan).

It was a fantastic get-away.

Vacation, I’m convinced, is a spiritual practice. It’s an act of faith – a way of saying, “God, I trust that my little corner of the world will not fall apart if I leave it for a week.” Vacation is a reminder that God is creator and sustainer. In the words of Klaus Issler, vacation is an opportunity for “wasting time with God.”

There are different vacation philosophies, mind you. On one hand there are families who live by the activity-oriented philosophy for vacations. Every day of the trip is full of pre-planned fun activities. This philosophy makes for great vacations, for sure. I’ve enjoyed a few of them myself.

My vacation preferences, however, are for the sloth-oriented philosophy. In short: do as little as possible. And when you actually do something, make sure it’s as passive as possible: read or lounge on the beach, float in the ocean, watch a movie, take a nap, etc.

More than a week of such slothfulness makes me feel unproductive and lazy. But I’ve found 5-7 consecutive days of such (non)activity to be incredibly refreshing and invigorating.

So, I’m back – excited about life and ready to see what the next phase has in store!

And I’ve got a lot of catching up to do in the blogosphere, so stay tuned.

Enjoy a recent video from our Marvelous Light retreat on May 1-2. You’ll also soon be able to view this video, along with other Storyline videos already posted, at www.storylinecommunity.com/media/videos.